Brokers and Husbands: It Pays To Pick A Good One

10 Hard Questions to Ask Your Broker and Yourself
Natalie Pace CEO & Founder, NataliePace.com



Arguably, your broker and your life partner are the two most important decisions that you’ll make in your life. (You don’t get to choose your family…) So, why do we spend so much time, attention and money on the courtship, wedding and honeymoon, and so little on finding the perfect someone to oversee the estate?

Many investors approach finding a financial professional like they do finding a job, thinking they have to sell themselves to win the relationship. Instead, you should be treating the broker as you would a fiancée. Don’t sell yourself to them. Make sure that they are worthy of you. Dig into their past. Ask the hard questions. Your life, your needs, your risk tolerance and your areas of expertise are specific to you, and if any financial professional starts laying out a cookie cutter plan for your money, that is the first red flag that you’re dealing with a salesperson, instead of a professional who is looking to develop a mutually beneficial long-term relationship.

Ideally, your certified financial planner, real estate broker and other financial professionals are here to find the perfect investments based upon your needs. So, why is it that so many of us expect them to be mind readers, and then fire them if the shoes don’t fit or the investments don’t pan out? If you’re looking for a remodel in downtown Los Angeles, you don’t want to consult an estate broker in Beverly Hills. Likewise, if you have major tax considerations and need to protect an existing portfolio, you don’t want to hand the reins to a hedge fund manager.

Is your financial planner someone you can respect, admire and honor through thick and thin? If not, you’re setting yourself up for losses, because at the first sign of real trouble, you’ll be faced with the hard truth that you knew all along—it was a bad match to begin with. You don’t want to be stuck in the foxhole with a jerk. An experienced professional will be an ally, seeing you through the hard times and drinking to success on the other side. All markets – real estate, bond and stocks – have their rallies and their pullbacks. Investing, like life, isn’t a fairy tale, but if you pick an outstanding partner, it can be a rich and rewarding adventure.

10 Things to Know About Your Broker:

1. How many years has s/he been handling portfolios and/or trading stocks and bonds?
2. What is her/his education (university)? (Brokers do not have to be college graduates)
3. What financial certifications does s/he hold?
4. What is her/his investment style?
5. What is her research criteria? (If they rely solely on "what the company tells them to pitch," they are likely more driven by company sales incentives than real gains in your portfolio.)
6. What is the performance of her client’s portfolios? (Be careful that you don’t get a bait and switch on this one, where they point you to mutual fund pie charts, where the years have been carefully selected to present a positive picture.)
7. Years of employment with current company (and where s/he worked before).
8. Any complaints filed with the NASD? (Call the NASD to verify that there haven’t been any complaints.)
9. How much time and energy will s/he give to my portfolio?
10. How many market downturns has s/he personally been through in her field? (Don’t confuse wisdom with a bull market. This would be particularly relevant to young real estate brokers right now.)

4 Questions Your Broker Should be Asking You:

1. What is your favorite investment strategy? (Do you have experience making real gains in any one sector?)
2. What is your least favorite investment strategy and why? (Do you hate the THE NASDAQ because you lost money in 2000?)
3. How is your portfolio currently positioned (diversified)?
4. What is your risk tolerance? (No investment is worth a heart attack!)

Please note that Natalie Pace and NataliePace.com are not brokerages or in the business of advising people about their personal finances. NataliePace.com offers the news and information you need to make smarter investment choices (with the help of your financial professional). Always consult financial professionals, including your accountant, before making changes to your portfolio.

Should I Pay Down Debt with my Tax Refund?

Ask Natalie: Should I Use My Tax Refund to Pay Down Debt?

Dear Natalie. The IRS is sending out stimulus checks to all taxpayers, plus I’m getting another $5,000 back in my tax refund. Should I pay down the debt on my credit cards, take a vacation or invest the money? My wife and I can’t agree. Help! Signed: Vacation Happy

Dear Vacation Happy: If you’ve ever played my Billionaire Game, then you know that I believe there is a divine flow of money that, when followed, leads to the rich life. The Billionaire Game takes you through the process of how you would spend that money if you had all the money in the world. When you apply that logic and those disciplines to your current situation, then the right answer for your and your wife becomes VERY clear! So, take the time to play the Billionaire Game with your wife to help resolve this. You can get the details of the Billionaire Game in the volume 5, issue 3 NataliePace.com ezine.

According to an Associated Press-AOL Money & Finance poll released on April 10, 2008, the majority of Americans are spending their refunds this year to pay bills and to pay down debt. As a point of policy, I don’t think that is a good idea, for a number of reasons. In the natural world, what you focus on expands. If you focus on debt or if you’re stuck in the rut of basic needs and survival, you never get out of it largely because you haven’t changed the habits that got you into debt in the first place. If you focus on wealth creation strategies, then you step into a healthy relationship with money that allows you to earn more and spend less in a more balanced way, while eliminating your debt and making sure it never builds up to an albatross again.

Let’s say that $5,000 refund was a $1,000,000 inheritance that you just received. If you thought about paying down $100,000 debt first, then you wipe 1/10 of your money out of the inheritance and bring the principle down to $900,000. If you invested the money, then your debt could be paid with the returns, as average returns on $1,000,000 are 10% annually, or $100,000 per year. In that scenario, your debt could be paid off in one year, and you preserve all of your principle. The following year, you should have $100,000 income (that 10% return) to enrich your lifestyle.

Put your debt on a payment plan that is consistent with the 50% to survive and 50% to thrive "Buy My Own Island" plan that is outlined in the Billionaire Game. (Debt repayment is part of your survival, incidentally, not your thriving.) The reality is that when you get your debt on a payment plan, get your spending in line with the Thrive budget and focus on increasing your monthly income through your job as well as your investments, you are embracing a strategy that works. When you try to decrease debt simply by making a lump sum payment, the odds that you build it up again are extremely high, because your income hasn’t increased, your spending hasn’t decreased, your investments haven’t flourished and your skill level hasn’t improved. In order to become wealthier than you are today, all of those things should be addressed – more income, more education, more skills, better investing habits and a lower monthly nut!

As an example of how this works, there was a woman we’ll call Wendy. Wendy had put about $30,000 on credit cards when she was launching her business in 2003. Her business wasn’t doing so well, so by 2005, she was barely paying the minimum payment each month. As a result, the penalties and interest had doubled her debt to almost $60,000. Wendy called the credit card company, told them her dire situation and started a monthly payment plan of a minimum amount that she could afford at the time. In 2008, Wendy was contacted by the debt collector at the credit card company and asked if she was interested in setting up a repay plan that was more acceptable to the company.

The debt collector was initially aggressive about the principal and need for a high payment, which was much higher than anything Wendy could really afford. When the collector said, "But your debt is almost $60,000!" Wendy responded by pointing out that half of the debt was penalties and interest. She also noted that she’d been faithful about making payments on the debt, even though her business had been struggling.

As a result of religiously paying the minimum payment over the last three years and pointing out to the debt collector that original amount owed was only $30,000, Wendy was able negotiate a new principal of $45,000 and monthly payments to pay off the debt, which were well within her ability to repay. If Wendy continues to make her payments on time, there will be no further penalties or interest on the account.

With that out of the way, Wendy focused on getting a book deal to promote her business, on getting her business cash positive and partnering with some big partners in achieving her goal. That focus resulted in a lot more income to her. More income means that she has the ability to make bigger monthly payments on the debt going forward, and potentially even under better terms. On the other hand, if Wendy’s focus had been solely on paying down debt, instead of on business expansion as well, she might have made a slightly larger payment, but nothing close to the $15,000 of the debt, which was written off. And who knows if she would have gotten into a position of earning more income so quickly!

Debt is similar to dieting. When you adopt healthy eating habits, you’re more likely to lose weight and never gain it back. When you "diet," you’re more likely to yo-yo between weight loss and weight gain. When you adopt healthy fiscal habits, you’re more likely to create wealth. When you try to pay down debt in one lump sum, you’re more likely to balloon back up to serious debt fairly quickly, which keeps you too sad, depressed and at wit’s end to focus on wealth generating strategies and investments!

In short, the good news, Vacation Happy, is that a healthy approach to money includes fun, so you get to have your vacation, your investments and to pay down debt, too! If you really want to get into the flow of prosperity, that $5,000 plus refund should also include two items that were not on your list – charity and education. There is no reason to stay trapped in yo-yo debt dieting, when you can adopt the habits of the very wealthy and start living a richer life right here and now.

Be sure to share where you go, what you invest in and the fantastic results of your own debt repayment negotiations at my AskNatalie blog at http://asknataliepace.blogspot.com/!

Should You Pick Up the Check?

You Are Sexy, Sassy and Smart.

So Should You Pick Up the Check?

by Natalie Pace.



Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher

Fortunately, thanks to the hard work of the women who have come before us, American women are free, free, free to get an education and get pretty much any job we desire, so, thankfully, many of us can afford to pick up our own checks. But should you? Or should you politely excuse yourself to the powder room just before the check arrives, to allow him to make the choice? Should you discuss it beforehand? Should you take charge and just snatch the bill before he does? As if procreating the species and having a monthly period wasn't hard enough, now we have to figure out an entirely new mating dance! Who picks up the check?!!

The question really isn't whether or not you should pick up the check. The question is: what kind of relationship are you interested in? Once you are in a relationship, you'll be giving your hot guy a say in a lot of things, but when you are just dating, your job is simple. You need to pick the right dream guy so your time together doesn't become a nightmare. Now, picking up the check (or not) sends a relationship signal to your date early on about the kind of relationship that you are interested in. So be sure that you are smart about the message you send, so that you are setting yourself up for the relationship you truly desire!

Are you more of a Demi, a Princess Di or a Hillary?

Girls Who Pick Up.
* Do you like treating your friends to a good time?
* Are you so wealthy that the only guy who can pick up your check is Stavros Niarchos III?
* Do you own your own Gulfstream jet?




Let's face it. Britney Spears could have dated one of the Google founders, if she wanted to play Grace Kelly in the relationship. Whether it was a conscious choice or not, she picked a dancer to be her husband and the father of her son. Since the goal is to be sexy, sassy, smart and happy, make sure you make your choices before you start drinking! If you have more money than the Queen of England (like J.K. Rowling does), or have a dream job that you want to place first in the relationship, and/or are looking for someone to play a supportive role to you, then, by all means, reach for the check (with all of the femininity that you desire to summon) on ALL of your first dates.

The challenge of a woman who rules the roost in a relationship is finding a great guy and not just a leech who is fawning all over you because he can't afford his own cover charge! Demi Moore didn't do so badly with Ashton!!

Girls Who Are Provided For.





American girls are doing pretty well in the Queen department. Grace Kelly, the Queen of Monaco and Princess Caroline's mother, was an American actress when Prince Rainier came calling. Queen Noor of Jordan, originally of California, was a Princeton graduate who dreamed of working in the Peace Corps when King Hussein asked her to marry him.
Queen Noor chairs the first meeting of KHF Board of Trustees, June 30, 1999.
Queen Noor is now one of the most important voices for peace in the world, and, even more importantly, in the Middle East. She is Chairman of the Board of Trustees of the King Hussein Foundation, proving that playing a supportive role to a great man is not such a bad gig. (Note: a great partner is the key in all of these scenarios.)

Girls Who Want an Equal Partnership (and Pick Up the Check Sometimes)



Politics aside, you have to admire the strength of the Clinton's marriage and relationship. (It can be argued that Hillary picked a great, horny man. She's been quoted as saying, "It's hard to keep an old dog on the porch.") During his Presidency, Bill Clinton gave Hillary more power and influence than any other First Lady in history. She leveraged that into winning a seat in the Senate, and is now a leading Presidential contender for the next Democratic primary, with one of the most popular and powerful world leaders as her biggest cheerleader!

So, to pay or not to pay is an important choice! But, the most important decision you'll ever make isn't who pays, but picking a great partner. Brokers and Lovers: It pays to pick a good one, regardless of who buys lunch.



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